With my first pregnancy, I was overwhelmed with excitement at first. Then I started to almost dread the actual birth that had an impending date that kept creeping closer and closer with each passing day. The majority of people told me horrifying stories and another group of ladies told me wonderful birth stories. I had no idea what to expect! Not just with the birth but I wondered how I would manage life with a baby. It was all so unknown to me.
Well here I am, expecting baby number 2!!! And already, I have found much more peace with this pregnancy. I guess knowing what to expect really takes a lot of fear and worry away! Here are a few things I wish I could go back in time and tell myself when I was scared and pregnant with my first baby. I hope anyone who is in that same boat can find this helpful, educational and encouraging!
Trust Your Body
I’ve said it in a previous post, but I want to say it again, we were made to do this! In our world today, we don’t give our Creator enough credit or trust. He specifically designed women to bring life into the world. It is a beautiful process that usually needs no medical intervention!
When I went to the hospital in labor, I told the nurses I was not wanting an epidural. One of them told me,
“You don’t want an epidural? Oh hunny, would you go into an open heart surgery without getting anesthesia? It is only going to get worse and you are going to wish you had it as soon as your water breaks.”
At the time, I didn’t know how to reply to this woman but I was very glad to hear her shift ended shortly after and I did not end up getting an epidural. Child birth is natural… open heart surgery is not. That is just not something you tell a new scared mom at 7 or 8 cm dilated. She put fear in me and fear causes extra pain.
Don’t let other people’s bad experiences or stories scare you into thinking you cannot handle it. You have an unimaginable strength in you that you have never met before but I promise you, it is there and you will feel on top of the world afterwards.
Researching possible side effects of having an epidural might even help you realize that you might not want to go down that route, unless absolutely necessary. Educate yourself and make your own choices for your birth plan. Having a child is hard work and painful but it is NOT an unbearable pain!
You Won’t Regret Getting a Doula
Weather you plan on having your baby in a hospital, in a birthing center or at home, these wonderful women are just there to answer your questions, prepare, and serve you before, during and after labor. They are birthing experts! My doula knew just how to apply counter pressure to my lower back to help ease the pain of my contactions. She came over to our apartment at 4am and was by my side until a couple hours after my baby was in my arms, around 4pm. She even came to check in on me a few days later and helped with all of my nursing questions. My husband was super apart of helping me every step of the way but he is still only a guy and was just as new to all of this as me. We chose to hire a professional, it was worth every penny and also the biggest reason I did not end up getting an epidural!!
Thinking of upgrading to a bigger/safer car for your growing family? Word of advice… sooner rather than later is definitely better for this. It is not fun to shop for cars when you are super pregnant. And if you wait as long as we did, you might even start having contractions in the finance office, I’ll save that story for another day! But definitely don’t wait until you have your newborn baby to car shop… some things are just easier to do without kids!
Start saving now!
It’s never too early to start saving for your child’s future. Check out OwnX to create a free account to start saving in physical silver and gold for you and your children. With low minimum purchases of only $25, this is an easy way to help secure and pass on your wealth in uncertain economic times.
I wish I would have known about this before our little nugget was born. We were blessed to have some amazing church friends deliver meals for the first two weeks or so but after that I still didn’t have the energy or time to shop and cook! With no family nearby and a husband that is not a cook, we found ourselves getting a lot of takeout. I have now learned of a couple options that can help get a healthy dinner on the table without much thought or energy.
Here a few links to give you an idea of what I’m talking about. Crockpot meals, quick lunches, and frozen breakfast options will help you so much when you join the mommy club! The experts say it will stay good in your freezer for up to three months! Not sure what to do while you wait for your due date? Start prepping freezer meals!
Another option is using a fresh meal prep delivery service. My favorite has been HelloFresh. You will get a box of several thought out meals delivered to your door with fresh meat and produce. It comes with the recipes and all of the ingredients you need measured out and ready to cook. These fresh meals are seriously delicious and they are husband friendly with step by step directions. (If you use my referral code BR5QSF you will get $40 off your first box!) Doesn’t get much better than that!
Diaper Delivery Service
I’m a big fan of Honest Diapers! My poor baby suffered from severe diaper rashes from every other brand we tried until these! On top of that, it saves time and money to order in bulk online! I’m always down for cutting out unnecessary trips to the store with my little one. This online company will send you a month’s supply of diapers and wipes right to your doorstep! It really is amazing, not to mention the diapers are super stylish! (If you click on the link above you will save money on your first order!)
Enjoy that Uncomfortable Pregnancy Sleep!
Sleep is sleep. Soon you will not be getting much sleep at all. Stock up on as much as you can get now and don’t feel bad about it! 🙂
Your Heart is About to Grow
You will soon find yourself taking pictures of every single moment of your baby’s life. Why? Because they are freaking adorable! The whole world might not agree but in your mind they are the most amazing creations. Your heart is about to expand and stretch in ways you never knew were possible! Get ready for it!
Find other people to talk to and surround yourself with who are uplifting and encouraging to you and have been in your shoes! Being a parent is full of uncertainties and uncharted territories. Don’t be scared. Embrace each step of the way and enjoy the journey!
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